Got a e-mail back from Paul on the main cap side bolts . Seems there not all ARP, 12 point head are , 6 point are as he say's generic.
40-45 ft.lbs for the 12 point with oil , DO NOT TORQUE THE 6 POINT BEYOND 35ft.lbs with oil


it's ok to butt heads, just don't do it with a butthead