i just stumbled across this thread. i feel bad for you, i just lost the love of my life a little over 6 weeks ago to pancratic cancer. and i know im crushed, i cant imagine what going through this with a child must be like, lifes not fair!! a couple things id like to offer for advice. take one day at a time dont look to far into the future and loose sight of what you have in front of you right this minute, the world is round for a reason, so we cant see to far in front of us. this was given to us by a priest right after my wife was diagnosed in april and helped me alot. these are tough choices. you should never have to make these choices but now that you do, make the one thats best for your family and your son and dont look back. i cant tell you how much my heat hearts for your hole family, youll be in my thoughts and prays!