The 2 wires coming off of the momentary starter switch, thats my next question.

one of these is going to the small terminal on the solenoid.

The other gets routed to and thru my micro switch on the shifter for neutral safety. Where does this wire end up??
Does it go directly to the small post on the starter? does it go to a continuous hot source?

My solenoid is not marked "I" or "S"
As it is mounted on firewall, I have battery POS cable mounted to right side big terminal and starter cable running out the left side going to starter big post.

i have hooked up the starter switch 6 different ways and can't get the momentary switch to activate starter

Yes I know... I suck at wiring, but please help