First and foremost it should FUN for the kids... the win at any cost mentality is bad. Lots of time permeated from the adults. What are they really playing for at the end of the day? Yes you like to win, but come on now.

Unfortunate and it much worse today than when I played on an elite club team in California a long time ago.

Then the parents that think they know everything and do no wrong. We told really good players, in fact the best player in our area, no thanks when he wanted to join our team. Toxic whiner with parents just as toxic if they didn't like what was going on. Bad team chemistry.

If the ref lets the game get that way sometimes you have to roll in the mud a little. Sucks That ref is garbage for not controlling the rekick when your daughter was going off the field. Bottom line. We got carded for that stuff if we pushed the envelope too many times. At u13, they aren't going to be as bad to control as the older divisions/players. No way should that age group get away with anything on the field.