I believe that with age comes more wisdom! An old guy that I worked with who's wife was going through the cancer experience once told me, " that the one thing that bothered him the most, was people who has never had the experience, giving him advise on what to do" as he stated that something new happens everyday, and I would believe this has happened to you.
My son has had it, I have had it, now my wife is going through it, so our thoughts and prayers are with all of you. GOD BLESS - HEMI JOE & JEAN