I'm finally back to enjoying the hobby
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11/25/21 09:23 PM
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DUFFMAN
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For the last 4-5 years my interest in my Mopars has been fading, to the point where I was trying to sell my pride and joy. It turns out that the friends I was hanging out with were dragging me down. Their only interest was hanging out and drinking. They had no motivation to do anything but drink and complain. It took a real tole on me mentally as I thrive on accomplishing things.
Unfortunately things came to a head in the worse possible way. It started with someone I thought was a friend criticizing me for pretty much all that I am. Then the gaslighting began and a complete circle of what I thought were friends turned against me. The more I defended myself the worse the attacks got. It was painful, and I still have PTSD from it 8 months later, but it's turned out for the better. I'm back enjoying the things that define me as a person. This includes my wife and kids. I'm spending more time at home with the people and activities I love. It's weird how something so wrong, and what my so called friends did was terrifying, could turn out for the better.
I have a son that's 15 1/2 which is stirring his interest in cars. Today, even though he just has a learners permit, I taught him to drive stick. He really wants a Cummins Ram and I'm working hard to find one for him. It's going to be older so he'll have a project on his hands.
Sorry to dump out my purse here, but this community has always been very supportive, and at this point I have very few close friends left.
No longer taking $h!t from anyone!
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Re: I'm finally back to enjoying the hobby
[Re: SattyNoCar]
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11/25/21 09:48 PM
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It's tough to not be mad at them for what happened, but in the end they have to live with their own insecurities that lead them to this. I've done a lot of research and I understand more about what happened. In the end they're the ones who continue to suffer.
No longer taking $h!t from anyone!
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Re: I'm finally back to enjoying the hobby
[Re: topside]
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11/26/21 04:04 PM
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Kiddart
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Duff,
you did the right thing, cut your losses and you are going to be much happier down the road. My son is now 24 and we spend as much time in the garage as we can. His life and mine get in the way a lot but I wont trade any of our time for a bottle of beer and arguments with those that think i am an idiot for wanting to restore an old car or put a coat of wax on one of the cars and talk about the good old days
we have good times in the garage working on our cars, he likes it and so do i.
My wife knows we are safe and sober and that's a good thing.
you are way better off without them.
Thank you Kiddart
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Re: I'm finally back to enjoying the hobby
[Re: Jim_Lusk]
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11/27/21 12:19 PM
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larrymopar360
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Definitely a congrats in order to you AND to having a son interested in a real truck and not a Honda civic LOL!!!!
Facts are stubborn things.
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Re: I'm finally back to enjoying the hobby
[Re: DUFFMAN]
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11/28/21 09:57 AM
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RoadRunnerLuva
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Good for you Duffman! I had a similar situation with people I thought were good "friends"....turned out to be a different story...live and learn I guess. It's very cool to hear your son is looking to get into this hobby, we need all the young guys/gals, we can get, to keep it moving forward. Best of luck to you and your son with everything.
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Re: I'm finally back to enjoying the hobby
[Re: DUFFMAN]
#2990158
11/29/21 12:25 PM
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67SATisfaction
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For the last 4-5 years my interest in my Mopars has been fading, to the point where I was trying to sell my pride and joy. It turns out that the friends I was hanging out with were dragging me down. Their only interest was hanging out and drinking. They had no motivation to do anything but drink and complain. It took a real tole on me mentally as I thrive on accomplishing things.
...but this community has always been very supportive, and at this point I have very few close friends left. This is fantastic to hear, Duff... I remember your earlier posts about these friends .. Glad to hear you got your soul back, and glad to hear your family helped make the difference. Life isn't always easy for anyone. It's nice to know we can all be here for eachother. Cheers, - Art
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Re: I'm finally back to enjoying the hobby
[Re: 67SATisfaction]
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12/01/21 09:39 PM
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DUFFMAN
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Last weekend I drove 4 hours to Indiana to pick up a bent Charger SRT8 hood. The goal is to cut it up and graft the scoop onto a hood for my Magnum SRT8. My son went with me and we had some great conversation. He's happy to have me back and he hates what those "friends" did to me. He's a great kid.
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Re: I'm finally back to enjoying the hobby
[Re: DUFFMAN]
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12/01/21 09:56 PM
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SomeCarGuy
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I’m lucky to have run off any asshats like that long ago. You don’t want to have any sand caught in yourself around me, I’ll not hold back. Better to have fun your way than to slow down for goobers and their muck and mire.
I want my fair share
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Re: I'm finally back to enjoying the hobby
[Re: SomeCarGuy]
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12/04/21 02:34 PM
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DUFFMAN
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I'm happy when I'm accomplishing things, and my so called "friends" just wanted to sit around, drink, and complain about everything and everyone, even each other. I swear the song "Too much time on my hands" was written about them. They brag up what they're capable of but never follow through on anything. One even bought a project car, and the only progress ever made on it was stuff I did for him. I was the only person he knew that can work on old cars, so I'm sure nothing has been done with it since we parted ways.
What's funny is I didn't realize I had nothing in common with them. I don't run into them at all around town because they don't have the same interests as me. They also taught me how to spot toxic insecurity, and I had to walk away form another "friend" because he started doing the same crap. I treat everyone like an equal, and I've always overlooked people's problems, but this group bit me in the butt so bad that I've become vigilant on metal illness and insecurity. People like these are energy vampires and they suck the life, and happiness, out of you.
Anyway. I spent a lot of time this summer "playing" with my cars. Way more than I have in the last few years. I've also spent more time with my family. All of which has made me much happier.
I really thought the hobby was dead for me.
No longer taking $h!t from anyone!
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