It'll be important to do as much research/vetting on your neuro/spine surgeon as possible. Some have far greater success rates than others. Being in VA, you probably have some "world class" neurosurgeons within the region. It would certainly be worth the extra effort to get to the best that accepts your insurance.

The aggravating process you're going through isn't unique to your area, unfortunately. It's tough to be patient when you're in constant pain. Once you find the surgeon you're comfortable with, talk to him/her about getting fast-tracked to operating table. Maybe they can get you in sooner, maybe not, but it's worth asking the question. Having been there, I wish you the best.