Never had a spin-on oil filter drip a drop when its been hand tightened.
Of course you have to be smarter than the filter and make sure it and your hands are clean so you can get a solid grip. (Did I really need to say that?)
Yes, the "standard" is film of new oil on the gasket and tighten 3/4 turn once the gasket makes contact. For a new filter.
Filter wrenches can distort and puncture the filter case.
It don't sound like you have ever done a big truck oil change, it is impossible to get those big filters tight by hand. In 33 years of doing it here at work, I have yet to damage a filter big or small by using filter wrench on them.
