No, they are not designed to align at 100 lb/ft. The individual parts are mass produced, not a matched set.

With 8 slots to chose from there's a pretty good chance it will align at 100 lb/ft the first time out but it isn't guaranteed.

Ball joints are machined tapers designed to lock together through a proper fit. The nut is there to pull them together properly and is left in place as added insurance. After all, they won't hold together under all circumstances.

130 lb/ft won't hurt the fastener. That size thread will take far more torque.