You're facing a complex network of personal problems and consequences that are not of your own making, nor under your complete control.
As mentioned above, the guy has money. He lacks responsibility and he lacks action.
Break each problem down to a solution solved by the use of his money
- He needs to hire people to clean out the house, fix the car, get a hire to drive him around.. then look ahead and anticipate everything you can down to his ride to the airport so you're not caught without a solution he can solve with his money.
The guy probably suffers from a lack of boundaries..
You wife has not been mentioned as the primary problem solver here.. What's her role? She can appeal to the church pastor for help dealing with this guy..
You have my sympathy,
- Art
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