You need to quit asking and start telling.

I'm assuming you are the Trustee of said account and someone other than yourself has disbursed funds from the account.

As Trustee, YOU administer the account, and you alone. Any one else who does so without written delegated authority is acting as Trustee de Son Tort and can be held liable for any injury their actions may cause.

I would make it very clear to them that any tax liability you may have incurred due to their actions will be on them and that it will be in everyone's best interest for them to rectify this post haste.

Kevin