Rule #1: Never install a rubber gasket with RTV silicone. Why? Because rubber is not compressible... it is deformable. So, IF you apply RTV silicone spread across a rubber gasket, its the same as spreading grease across it. the gasket will simply slide and want to split/deform very easily. You will never find a gasket manufacturer with directions to apply RTV silicone across a rubber gasket. Rubber gaskets are always best installed DRY without any wet chemical.
Rule #2: Check for flatness... both surfaces must be flat (stamped pans, etc tend to have distortion, especially at the bolt holes... replace or flatten as needed.
Rule #3: Clean all threadings... so to reduce and eliminate unwanted friction.
Rule #4: Tighten to manufacturer's specifications... avoid over-tightening.
Remember, again, that rubber is not compressible... its deformable and only by about about 30% of its thickness... squeezed any more than that and it'll split apart. (Cork-rubber, by comparison, can be compressed 50%... more forgiving to out-of-flatness and irregular surface imperfections.)
I 'm a former gasket engineer from a major leading company... and I wrote the instructions within their gasket sets.