Still need to combine start and run, relays aren't small.
Yes, they are. Every new car out there used a bunch of relays to power high loads. they are not big, they are not expensive and they are not a mystery to be avoided.
Nor do you need to dance around in the nude and sacrifice a chicken to the god of electrons.
Any other objections?
This
30A automotive grade relay is 2" tall and about 1.24" square, Under $4 and includes a mounting tab.
the
connector if you want one. Under $4 again.