I just put a South Bend clutch in my '01 6 speed last week! I haven't driven it yet as I am doing a bunch of other work to the truck too. I got their kit with the flywheel, but my original looked great, and could have been resurfaced. My truck has 300000km.
As for the crossmember. It will come out and go back in no problem without spreading the frame. It does take a BFH though! I also did the rear main seal while I was in there, which was a pain in the butt! The manual says to use a slide hammer to pull the old one out. Well, that didn't work for me. It kept pulling the screws out and the seal didn't move. I ended up taking the seal retainer out of the block. So make sure to get that gasket too when buying parts.
Make sure you have a good trans jack. I have a 2000lb Ranger jack, and the trans was a little wobbly on it. I pulled it myself, but I would highly recommend a friend help just for safety sake.
Any questions about the swap, just let me know.
Dave