Just using that as an example. But if I were to get a truck, that truck has most of the options I want (4x4, Regular cab, not black, not cloth interior, etc.)

Any V8 Durango or GC should fit your needs. Including towing an open trailer. The Durango will tow better with its longer WB but the GC is OK. I've run a GC and all generations of Durango. I am not crazy about the Commander... though I have never run one. Maybe it is because I saw an amazing number of Commanders in the ditch driving through a heavy snow storm through Iowa (in a Durango). Maybe because of the looks.

Anyhow, all Durangos (and Aspens) are nice but each version got better. The 5.9 gen I was good but fuel mileage so so. The gen II Hemi was better in all respects. The gen III Durango was better and the 8 speed Hemi is better yet. If you get a gen I or II Durango with the 9 1/4" axle, watch the seal. Try to catch a leak early before big problem. Don't ask me how I know... .

For the 4.7... its a nice match for the GC in performance and also has the sensitivities you mentioned.