UPDATE!
Thanks for all the advice.
It took along time but we sure havent been in a rush but me and the fantastic woman i live with have looked at alot of jeeps and a few durangos over the last year(some had good servicerecords and fairly low miles but considering how trashed some interiors where we found it hard to believe those cars where taken care of in a good maner) and we finaly found a car that we both realy like and she fell for it at first sight,one that cost alitle more than we first planed on spending but it realy seems like the right car to buy.

Ended upp with a very black 4wd 2000 Durango SLT with a 360 it has some 137k miles on the clock but with an excelent interior,the whole car feels like new compared to the other jeeps and durangos we have looked at,have only driven it alitle so far but realy like it,its very comfortable and seems to runt strong,that 360 sure has alot of of idle torque. Thought im not sure why i would ever need 7 cupholders:D