Heat at least initially during the break in is normal. If it's too hot to put you hand on and you havent been drag racing or road racing it's getting too hot.
Noise is an indicator of poor contact. You set the stuff to spec - but did you run a pattern? the trick is a good pattern within spec. not just "within spec". Also - new gears require a break in period. You jack the car up, run it in drive between 30-50mph for 15 minutes. Then let it cool completely (over night). Then drive it a short distance, no hard accel or decel, drive for about 15 minutes, then let cool (overnight is best). After that it's good to go. After the initial break in on the jacks, it should not get that hot and if it's noisey at all during either, something's wrong.

Well, art is art, isn't it? Still, on the other hand, water is water! And east is east and west is west and if you take cranberries and stew them like applesauce they taste much more like prunes than rhubarb does. Now, uh... Now you tell me what you know.