well I found it to be the stat! I pulled the stat and it looks fine Mr gasket Hi flow havent checked it in water yet but will! reinstalled with no thermostat and drove home never went over 160 so I'll be putting in a new thermostat this week! OH and the Mr gasket Hi flow was put in a month ago! Thanks for all the help! I still dont fully understand why the upper hose was so hot and the bottom hose was cool with it being the thermostat! I would have thought it was the other way around??