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Re: Ever been happy to ditch "friends"
[Re: nutso suave]
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05/04/21 12:19 AM
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None of it's been easy because this has been my primary circle of friends for years. Surprisingly, some friends I haven't had much contact with have stepped up to support me. Congrats on dropping some toxic friends! I had a very close friend in college that started getting into real estate and buying houses ...then the bubble bursts around 2008. He loses everything, his houses, rentals, even his job,,,, he had to declare bankruptcy and move into an apartment. We (and another mutual college buddy) build a huge deck at his place, with a cool porch roof and suspended outdoor lighting. You built a deck off the back of a rental apartment???
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Re: Ever been happy to ditch "friends"
[Re: nutso suave]
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05/05/21 08:48 PM
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I am not the cool friend with lots of money and extravagant lifestyle, but I'm really your friend. That's how I feel. I would, and have, done just about anything to help these guys out and they completely turned on me over a misunderstood situation, and none of them wanted to hear my side of it. I found out the hard way I was more loyal to them then they were to me. Someday they'll wake up and realize what they lost. Some really great things have come out of this though. I reconnected with an old best friend. Seems he's also had problems with fake friends and he was happy to hear from me again. My health is so much better. Since I stopped drinking bear during the week I've lost 17lbs. Last Thursday I saw my doc and my mental health is better than ever (monitored every visit), and my health is the best it's been in 5 years. So it's worked out great for me in the end.
No longer taking $h!t from anyone!
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Re: Ever been happy to ditch "friends"
[Re: DUFFMAN]
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06/03/21 04:56 PM
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[/quote]Some really great things have come out of this though. I reconnected with an old best friend. Seems he's also had problems with fake friends and he was happy to hear from me again. My health is so much better. Since I stopped drinking bear during the week I've lost 17lbs. Last Thursday I saw my doc and my mental health is better than ever (monitored every visit), and my health is the best it's been in 5 years. So it's worked out great for me in the end. [/quote] That's awesome news!! Congrats! 
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Re: Ever been happy to ditch "friends"
[Re: VITC_GTX]
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06/03/21 10:53 PM
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If you want to lose friends in a hurry become a State Trooper. They told us in the academy there were friends that wouldn't have anything to do with you once you graduate. I thought they were full of crap, they were actually spot on. I couldn't believe some of my close friends would no longer come around and actually avoid me. Makes me wonder what they were afraid of.
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Re: Ever been happy to ditch "friends"
[Re: GODSCOUNTRY340]
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06/03/21 11:13 PM
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If you want to lose friends in a hurry become a State Trooper. They told us in the academy there were friends that wouldn't have anything to do with you once you graduate. I thought they were full of crap, they were actually spot on. I couldn't believe some of my close friends would no longer come around and actually avoid me. Makes me wonder what they were afraid of. One of my very good friends was a Pa State Trooper and there were times I wanted to choke him out. In Pa our Country Sheriffs were in charge of issuing conciled carry gun permits. His stance was if he pulled you over and had a pistol he would throw it in the Allegheny River. He said sue me if you want.
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Re: Ever been happy to ditch "friends"
[Re: GODSCOUNTRY340]
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06/06/21 09:00 PM
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Life has been great. I still feel better than ever. The only anxiety attack I had was when I asked for some of my stuff back and got attacked for it.
the last few years I've been struggling to find steady employment. Two weeks after disassociating with these losers I had an interview and landed the job of my life. Not only that I had 2 companies and a bidding war over me. My life is looking up, and I've only got one more thing to work out.
No longer taking $h!t from anyone!
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Re: Ever been happy to ditch "friends"
[Re: tboomer]
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06/07/21 08:00 AM
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Good luck to you! Things are looking up indeed! For sure. What's sad is these are all longer term friends that have evolved into monsters. They're absolutely miserable people but they won't recognize it. Instead of dealing with the things that are making them miserable they blamed me for it, which in turn made me miserable. The worst part is, since I was suffering from anxiety attacks, they used the most cruel tactics they could, like stonewalling and gaslighting. There are now a lot of acquaintances that won't talk to me due to the things these "friends" had told them. One even demanded I do certain things in order to remain friends. They told me I needed help, but just days after disassociation I felt better. It was like a huge weight had been lifted. Now looking back on how things transpired I realize that the only help I needed was getting away from them and that they need real help, not me. If they were real friends they would have been there to support me with the help they told me I needed. The more time away the more reflection I've done. Realizing what happened and that they have problems has made me feel even better to not be around them.
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Re: Ever been happy to ditch "friends"
[Re: Hugh Jorgan]
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06/08/21 11:22 AM
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It's expected of "friends" but is way more shocking when family is the problem. ain't that the truth
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Re: Ever been happy to ditch "friends"
[Re: JohnRR]
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06/08/21 09:43 PM
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It's expected of "friends" but is way more shocking when family is the problem. ain't that the truth I'm struggling with the same behavior out of my family that drove me away from my friends. For my own health I can't take it from anyone, and my recent experience has shown me that it's never as bad as it seems to walk away, which I may have to do.
No longer taking $h!t from anyone!
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Re: Ever been happy to ditch "friends"
[Re: DUFFMAN]
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06/09/21 09:09 AM
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Good luck to you! Things are looking up indeed! For sure. What's sad is these are all longer term friends that have evolved into monsters. They're absolutely miserable people but they won't recognize it. Instead of dealing with the things that are making them miserable they blamed me for it, which in turn made me miserable. The worst part is, since I was suffering from anxiety attacks, they used the most cruel tactics they could, like stonewalling and gaslighting. There are now a lot of acquaintances that won't talk to me due to the things these "friends" had told them. One even demanded I do certain things in order to remain friends. They told me I needed help, but just days after disassociation I felt better. It was like a huge weight had been lifted. Now looking back on how things transpired I realize that the only help I needed was getting away from them and that they need real help, not me. If they were real friends they would have been there to support me with the help they told me I needed. The more time away the more reflection I've done. Realizing what happened and that they have problems has made me feel even better to not be around them. Based on your description of these bullies, I would not be surprised if they will now find another victim amongst themselves to harass. The new victim might even contact you when he realizes what has happened to him and that the two of you have a similar experience. Ragnar in Iceland PS: Due to the positive changes you have made in your life, you might want to change your sig line
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Re: Ever been happy to ditch "friends"
[Re: BadMoonRacer]
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06/09/21 05:12 PM
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Slantytown
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PS: Due to the positive changes you have made in your life, you might want to change your sig line
Noted and done! I also changed my avatar. The handle I think I need to keep.
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I fast forwarded a few years there...he has a home again.
