I don't disagree with any of the above, but the OP should nevertheless for the time being proceed with the durable POA asap, while she is of sound mind.
All the rest can be later after you have done your homework and made needed decisions.
I hope this is the case. As poorboy mentioned, i'm sure there will be a few visits to a lawyer that I would have to make time for, but it's hard from 3k miles away. Other than a modest home, car, and life insurance, she really doesn't have much so what she has won't make or break me.
